Happiness in Perspective

This wife was asked if her husband made her happy; Her response was unexpected

What every wife needs to read, understand and live in her marriage if she wants to build her home.

During a class at Fresno Pacific University, a speaker asked one of the spouses in the audience:

"Does your husband make you happy?"

At this moment, the husband stood up straighter, showing complete confidence. He knew his wife would say yes, because she had never complained about anything during their marriage.

However, his wife answered the question with a resounding "No."
"No, my husband does not make me happy."

The husband was baffled, but his wife continued:

"My husband never made me happy and does not make me happy. I am happy."

"Whether I am happy or not is not dependent on him, but on me. I am the only person on whom my happiness depends.

I choose to be happy in every situation and every moment of my life, for if my happiness depended on another person, thing or circumstance on the face of the Earth, I would be in serious trouble.

Everything that exists in this life constantly changes: the human being, the riches, my body, the climate, my boss, the pleasures, the friends, and my physical and mental health. I could quote an endless list.

I need to decide to be happy regardless of anything else that happens. Whether I own a lot or a little, I am happy! Whether I'm going out or staying home alone, ​​I'm happy! Whether I am rich or poor, I am happy!

I am married but I was already happy when I was single.

I'm happy for myself.

Other things, people, moments or situations are experiences that might cause joy or sadness. When someone I love dies, I am a happy person in an inevitable moment of sadness.

I learn from past experiences and I live those that are eternal like loving, forgiving, helping, understanding, accepting and consoling.

There are people who say: Today I cannot be happy because I am sick, because I have no money, because it is very hot, because it is very cold, because someone insulted me, because someone stopped loving me, because I don't know how to love myself, because my husband changed, because my children do not make me happy, because my friends do not make me happy, because my job is mediocre and so on.

I love my life not because my life is easier than anyone else's, but because I have decided to be happy as an individual. I am responsible for my happiness.

When I take this obligation from my husband and anyone else, I free them from the burden of carrying me on their shoulders. It makes everyone's life much lighter.

And that's how I've had a successful marriage for so many years."

Never give anyone else the responsibility to control your happiness. Be happy, even if it's hot, even if you're sick, even if you do not have money, even if someone has hurt you, even if someone does not love you and even if you do not value yourself.

That goes for women and men of all ages.

*SELF DEVELOPMENT TIPS*

*SELF DEVELOPMENT TIPS*

1. Make friends with successful people and occasionally buy them gifts and surprise them with lunch because successful people always give and hardly get, so when you give them, they value the gift a lot.

2. Get a mentor and follow his instructions and respect the relationship. Never beg your mentor for money or disrespect his or her privacy.

3. Make new positive friends as often as possible and ensure you keep the communication line open. Create a network of friends and not just connections.

5. Show kindness to everyone. Some small boys today will be big boys tomorrow. The biggest dog in the neighbourhood was once a puppy. And keep the information/secret to yourself.

6. Always plan ahead with God and be proactive. He that plans the future with God, work less in the future.

7. Listen to speeches and messages from great teachers. Both religious and educational.

8. Attend seminars and training on any area you need to improve yourself. Train the trainer, personal development, public speaking, sales etc.

9. Have the habit of keeping a pen and a writing pad handy because ideas come in the form of flashes. The smallest pen is bigger and better than the biggest brain.

10. Make sure at every point in time you are reading a book. If you spend 20 minutes reading daily, for 52 weeks you would have consumed 1,000,000 words.

11.Stay away from television as much as possible. You can watch educational channels. Men with big TV sit in front of them to watch men with big library.

12 Put control over your mouth, never say evil of any man, what you are not certain of should not be said. Say good of all men.

13. Always show appreciation for any good deed you received.

14. Always help someone in need.

15. Live a debt free life. What you can’t pay cash for is not your size.

16. Give out loans that you can part with as gift, so that you don’t destroy your business and relationship.

17. Create legitimate multiple sources of income.

18. Save at least 10 percent of your income.

19. Invest a portion of your income. And be patient to see it grow. If what you have in your hands is not good to be called a harvest then it’s a seed, sow it.

20. Keep a good financial record of all income and expenses, so you won’t ask later “where did my money go”

21. Be involved in community service. Control traffic, free lesson class for students etc.

22. Keep getting better on your daily goals and dream, develop yourself on them and make sure you get to the top 10 % of your industry.

23. Make sure you engage in exercise. It keeps your brain alert and your body fit to enjoy your success.

24. Pray often, and know that for every success, God made it possible.

Wishing you the very best. I tell you, this will keep you going in life if you practice what you just read.

BBNaija winner, Efe, regrets what he did in the house

BBNaija winner, Efe, regrets what he did in the house

Okogba / 15 minutes ago

•Apologises to mum
•Says he won without any strategy
•Thanks Okowa, I Go Dye, Ali Baba, Akpororo, Olamide

Efe Ejeba, winner of Big Brother Naija reality TV show is surely enjoying his new status as a celebrity. The youngest millionaire in town arrived the country, Monday night alongside Bisola, the first runner up of the reality TV show, to a rousing reception. On Tuesday, he held his first ever press conference, in Lagos, where he was presented with the keys to his SUV and N25 million cheque. In this interview with Showtime Celebrity, the Warri, Delta State-born rapper shares his experience in the BBNaija house, his ordeals as well as his plans to  stay on top of his game.

BY BENJAMIN NJOKU

How do you feel being the winner of the BBNaija reality TV show?

I feel great, I feel honoured. I’m grateful to God. I didn’t do it alone. I am full of gratitude to everyone who voted for me and supported me throughout my stay in the Big Brother Naija competition. I was simply living my normal life and having fun in the house. But I didn’t know I was having this much love outside. I was just being myself and living my life in the house.

What did you do differently that gave you an edge over other housemates?

I didn’t do anything differently. All the housemates came into the house with a winning mentality. I was just myself while some came with strategies, which we got to find out later. I feel I represented the average Nigerian youth in the house. I went into the house to live like a normal Nigerian child.

How did it feel like to be locked up in a particular place for 78 days?

It was crazy but I was not worried because I was there for the money. I said if it was 90 days I didn’t care because I was out to win. They say we wouldn’t use our phones and I told them that they could even keep my phone for two years. I was never tired of staying in the BBNaija house.

How would you describe your experience in the house?

Its funny that in a place where we expect a lot of immorality, I became more disciplined. I didn’t think I would ordinarily have fitted into the Big Brother House because I am not posh but I was proved wrong. When I got into the house I realised that I was a bit different from other housemates. I was not just playing for the camera, so, when I was angry or happy I showed it. With time, I started believing that I would actually win the show.

You were always placed on eviction every week.

I’m overwhelmed by this win because I grew up feeling like people didn’t love me and it turned out to be my strong point. I don’t try to be nice to people because I know what people think about me anyway. When I was in school, I was way ahead in class and people felt threatened by my young age. So, every week, I knew that I would be nominated for eviction and that was why I was ready to die just to win the head of house task. I didn’t believe in anyone winning the head of house task to save me aside from myself. So, when it came to those tasks I gave it my all.

What was the strategy you adopted while you were in the house?

I didn’t go into the house with any strategy. I was the same person throughout the show. The way I lived there was the same way I live my normal life. Nothing changed about me in the house.

Recall one of your conversations with TBoss where she boasted that she would spend N25 million within one week and your reaction was simply unimaginable!

I was stunned when she told me that she would finish N25 million in a week. I said to myself what is she doing here. “Me I ready die put for N25m but you say you fit spend am in one week. So wetin you come they do for the house na? You dey block oda people space na.” But I guess she said that out of anger. The biggest irony of the house was that the younger ones do not know how to manage their actions but the older ones just said it as it came.

What are your thoughts on what transpired between Kemen and Tboss?

Based on logistics, my people say I no dey diplomatic so I won’t comment on the matter.

Your fans in Jos are saying you never recognized them while you were in the house?

I am very proud to have been born and raised in Jos; we all know how Jos has blessed a lot of people in the Nigerian entertainment industry. I say it all the time that if I was born and raised in Warri, I wouldn’t have been this disciplined. I spoke a lot of Pidgin English in the house but don’t be deceived I also speak English very well.

Do you regret any of your actions in the house?

The only regret I have is drinking. I heard my mum is upset with me. So, I apologize to her for drinking so much in the house.

How did you cope with your fellow housemates?

I learnt tolerance and also, I learnt that some people have great personalities but still exhibit some unacceptable behaviours. I learnt that I needed to compromise certain things in order to live happily with them despite their flaws. I lived in a confined space and several people invaded my space. I couldn’t ignore them because of certain things they did, so I looked beyond their flaws and embraced their positive side.

With N25million and an SUV at your disposal, how are you feeling at the moment?

I am a different person who is not particularly moved by material things.

Have you been told that so many Nigerian celebrities supported you while you were in the Big brother House?

I am so grateful to a lot of people including Governor Okowa of Delta State. I heard he threw his weight behind me. I was also told that comedian; I Go Dye dropped N1 million for my campaign team. When I called him, he ended my call and called me back. We spoke for hours. I am also grateful to Ali Baba, AY, Akpororo and so many Nigerian celebrities whom I had never met but stood behind me. I hear my family house in Warri can now be likened to a tourist centre because of the number of people who have thronged our home to congratulate my parents.

What will become of your affair with Marvis now that you are out of the Big Brother Naija house?

What we had in the house was great, but she has a boyfriend. I was physically attracted to her and that was why I was close to her in the house.

Beyond BBNaija, what’s next for you?

It will be more about my music because music is my first love. I have realised that my brand is way bigger than music, so I will definitely explore different areas. If I receive any movie offer, the money must make sense. I don’t feel I know how to act and that was my biggest frustration in the Big Brother House.

Olamide tweeted that he’s going to do a duet with you!

Yes, Olamide is a great musician. He raps in Yoruba while I rap in pidgin English. I am looking forward to meeting and learning from him too.

Will you consider a career in comedy?

No, I’m not a comedian. My life may be funny but I don’t think my stories are funny.

At a point, you did feel frustrated while in the house?

Yes, I did, especially when it came to tolerating some people’s annoying behaviours.

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Why Will A Man Remained Shortchanged?????

Why Will A Man Remained Shortchanged?????

You may be one of those that reading boring,  and so I will some important note.

Man is a SPIRIT, has a SOUL and lives in a suit called BODY.

When Adam sinned,  a terrible transformation occurred, the body became susceptible to negative spiritual control and persuasions.

His blood became corrupted and His Lot was passed to all mankind.
There was an exchange, can you imagine that for as little as for a Yank of fruities,  he traded His Priced Positioning With God. He became shortchanged.

The irony of life is that if you have not received the gift of righteousness and eternal life,  you are still yanking the fruities however successful and otherwise you may seemingly be.

I met a gateman 2weeks ago and as I shared with him about God's reconciliation plan and God's masterplan out of poverty, I got to know, he had certainly popular religious background which I wouldn't want to mention as I don't want any form of digressionary thoughts.

Anyone that only identifies with Jesus Christ socially, religiously, secularly, educationally and otherwise without identifying with His Cause, is as good as an unbeliever and in a shortchange just like anyone that has not identified with Jesus at all.

Our way to RIGHT OF ADOPTION AS SONS AND DAUGHTERS OF GOD his Slaughter, Death, Resurrection and  and everything He received as a result of all that,  for all mankind; Power, Riches, Wisdom, Strength, Honour, Glory and The blessing.

All that mentioned, Jesus had willed to all that have come to identify with his death and resurrection.

Jesus have received the deed of ownership for all that man needs to be completely successful, peaceful

A Message by George Carlin

Peter Alegbe
This is a master piece. If you have not read it take the time to read it now. If you have read it take time to read it again!
GEORGE CARLIN

Isn't it amazing that George Carlin - comedian of the 70's and 80's - could write something so very eloquent...and so very appropriate.
A Message by George Carlin:
The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.
We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.
We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.
We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.
We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.
These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...
Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.
Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.
Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.
Remember, to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. An embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.
Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.
Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.
AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments
George Carlin
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Izegaegbe David
Brother good morning this is food for thought. God bless us all.
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Gerald Iwosha
Wonderful
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Ajah Michael Freeman
wisdom...
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Aroni Alawari
Now we have all read it but will we pause and at least attempt to practise a little of it? I mean to say "I love you" often to those we really love? To consciously create and leave with/in those you care for memorable moments? after all, what you leave behind for people may be remembered for a while but what you leave in people will be remembered for ever. Like other beautiful

WHY WE HAVE RECESSION:

APC said:
WHY WE HAVE RECESSION:

* Tompolo was paid 13Billion.
* Ex-CDS,Alex Badeh dug a pit toilet to hide $32m.
* Patience Jonathan is claiming $31m, she has sued the Nigerian state.
* Femi Fani-Kayode took 740M.
* Dasuki used trucks to load over $35B from the CBN.
* Olisa Metuh took 400M.
* Aziboala, GEJ's cousin took 6B naira.
* Nenadi Usman took 3.5B naira.
* Fayose took 3B naira.
* Obanikoro took 4Billion naira.
* Olu Falae took 100M naira.
* Tony Anenih - 400M naira.
* Oritsejafor - $35M
* Former Air Chief Amosu - 2Billion naira.
* Lucky Igbinedion-16B naira.
*Bode-George and Dabo -100B naira
* Jolly Nyame-2.4B naira.
* Joshua Dariye-700M naira.
*Nyesom Wike stole #4b.
* Diezzani with $20 billion missing oil money?
15 billon dollars missing from arms fund,  10 billion naria,  converted to dollars and given as gift to  delegates of PDP Nation convention, Bafarawa collected 3 billion for spiritual purposes , 12. 7 billon naria for deceased NEPA  staff grew wings and disappeared,  20 billion dollars missing from NNPC accounts, 23 billon naira as bribe to INEC staffs to rig the general election. The list is endless. They only left what they can't carry or unable to lay their hands on. The list continues.....
Recession didn't just happen, people looted Nigeria into RECESSION  happening....

NOW HEAR THE THIEVES:

1.  I acted based on Jonathan's instruction - Dasuki

2.  I didn't give order - Jonathan

3.  I collected 350M from Dasuki for consultation - Iyorchia Ayu

4.  I only collected $30,000 from Dasuki not N100m - Bode George

5.  I got N4.6b from Dasuki for spiritual purposes - Bafarawa

6.  I got N650M from Dasuki for my Abuja burnt office - Thisday Obaigbena.

7.  I got N2.1b from Dasuki for publicity - Dokpesi

8.  I got another N100m from Yuguda he didn't tell me from where - Bafarawa.

9.  I gave N100m each to Odili, Jim Nwobodo Bode George and others - Yuguda

10.  The president asked me to change N10B to foreign currency for PDP delegates - Dasuki

11.  My boss asked me to get $11M from the CBN - Dasuki's account officer.

12.  I got order from above to pay Tompolo N13B for Maritime university land. - Nimasa DG.

13.  950m was shared in my house -- Shekarau

With all this looting and many more revealed, some people are still shouting no sign of change yet, they even say it's political persecution.

But I believe, it is the right thing to do.
If you believe too, send this to other people to garner more support for the fight against corruption and looting in our nation. There must be consequences for such crimes otherwise Nigeria will not develop.